GO FOR IT
People may be looking at Your Smart Mind and thinking is this new? Is it a new idea? A creation? A development? Or simply a positive step forward in achieving what was my dream four years ago that I’m now making a reality? Well, let me tell you a little secret. People close to me certainly know that my “new” adventure is certainly not new! They have listened to me over the years saying I CAN and I WILL do this.
Eight years ago I discovered NLP, and it made sense to apply the principles and skills to my passion – golf and business. It became my dream. How could make this happen? Like most things in life we end up getting distracted and the universe decides to moves us into other areas.
Thankfully I moved into charity work which gave me the opportunity to develop myself, people and places I visited. I became skilled in solution focused coaching and worked with veterans, existing military personnel and their families to enhance their lives. I am so grateful for this experience.
Earlier this year in 2015 wrote a short e -mail to Dr Karl Morris (owner at Mind Factor) explaining my future plans. The response I got from him was truly amazing and made me even more determined to start making steps towards setting up my own company. I am truly grateful for that gentle push I received at the time.
Since that moment there has been a noticeable shift in my own universe. I have remained patient with choices I have made and truly grounded myself but yet I still find myself very excited and nervous about my new ventures. Fear can drive us into some very strange places, but if you can harness that energy and turn it into something positive you can certainly achieve your goals.
If I can consolidate my knowledge in terms of performance, focus, belief values and most of all gratitude, then I can offer these new ways of being to my clients.
See – it’s all new at first! We make a choice – this can start with a thought or creation of some kind; a new way of being or doing. We then implement change because of choice – now imagine having the power to choose what you want and the impact it can have on your game changing life choices. There are many different theories on change – as the old saying goes “every action has an equal and opposite reaction.”
Choice and change are no different. I agree that sometimes we make the wrong choice but remember it is just a choice we made – there’s never really a right or wrong path.
Your Smart Mind will help enable you to make those choices with clear focus clarity and vision.
As said at the beginning of this blog – we have many CHOICES but we now can work on that new CHANGE.
The final theory behind coaching is that it is down to the person to push the boundaries of our maps by ‘reprogramming our internal control systems’. Language gives us the ability to formulate, express and communicate our thoughts. It structures our world and the meaning and associations of words not only describe, but shape the world around us.
By altering their use of language, a person can expand the limits of their maps and take the first steps to starting the changes they want to make. For example, think of the word ‘failure’ – what does this mean to you?
To some, the word may represent disappointment, sadness and the sinking sensation in the stomach. These associations may alter how they will react to a failure – or risk of failure – in the future. However, others may associate the word with new beginnings, a fresh start and another life experience.
By altering the way different words and associations shape a person’s network of vocabularies, they can begin to change the way they think and their perception of the world.
People communicate feelings in different ways. Most of these feelings are actually communicated unconsciously, be it through tone, volume, pace, facial expressions, body language and words. Practitioners are trained to recognise these subtle, unconscious clues so that they can understand how their client is feeling. A practitioner can identify the self-imposed restrictions the clients have put on themselves through unveiling the client’s mental map and working with them to move forward.
The three most common types of limiting beliefs/self-imposed restrictions include:
It is easy for people to set themselves up for failure if they are constantly thinking negative thoughts. Comments such as, “I’m not good enough”, or “other people are better than me” can limit an experience and the chance of accomplishment. It is common for an Practitioner to cover these negative beliefs by asking a series of questions.
Why do you believe you do not deserve happiness or success?
Why can’t you succeed?
What is preventing you from fulfilling your dreams?
The answers to these questions can help to reveal the feelings that are causing the limiting beliefs. A coach will then begin to explore and challenge the limitations with the hope of changing the client’s negative thoughts.
What to expect
While the methods used by professionals will all differ, the standard NLP coaching session will follow the same, basic pattern.
Initially, the practitioner will ask what you want to change and the problems you want to overcome. They will pay close attention to what you are saying, how you say it and tailor the session to your responses.
The coach will then work through a range of exercises with you in order to piece together your “life map”. They will begin to introduce new thought processes in order to help you widen your boundaries.
It is common for the practitioner to give you a number of exercises to practise at home. This will help you get accustomed to the techniques learnt in the coaching session. While the main neurological changes will have occurred during the session, they may take time to settle in. It is normal for the changes to progress over time, as you get back into your daily routine.
They may ask you to record how you felt before, during and after sessions. This is so you and the practitioner can look back on the results. You will also make note of any changes you have noticed since starting the sessions and record any at-home exercises you have completed. When you are ready, both you and the practitioner will decide on the next stage of your life and what change to begin.
Neuro-linguistic programming is often regarded as “a tool-kit for the mind”, because of this; this used to improve all areas of a person’s life. It is known to be particularly effective for improving the following situations:
Anxiety and stress.
As soon as these unconscious thought patterns are recognised, they can be challenged.
Health and well-being
One of the most important ideas underpinning NLP is that the mind and body are closely connected. When exercising for example, people will experience positive mental and physical energy. By improving the way we approach and think about the world, we can improve the health and well-being of our bodies.
Fears and phobias
This can help a person become more aware of how they communicate. Understanding this can help people accept that others may have different views. One opinion is not wrong or right. With coaching, practitioners hope that by developing empathy skills, a person will find it easier to build strong and long-lasting relationships.
It is common for people to see an practitioner for relief from their own fears and limitations. The techniques used can help the person break the old habits and beliefs and gain new opportunities. is effective in boosting an individual’s confidence by teaching them how to make decisions based on their dreams, rather than fears.
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